Life is very beautiful. I was watching Swami Parthasarathy's videos from Youtube. Some of his views and lectures really inspired me. By putting more thoughts into them relating with the personal experiences and observations, I wanted to share about how we have to cope up with the changes around us.
The source of our stress is not the surroundings but lies within. When we see changes around us...it could be with people, financial crisis, job market, loved ones,etc..., we get anxious on our future and try to worry about the past by relating the similar things that happened long back.
If we know how to control us to handle the changes, then the life will always be beautiful. It is all in our perception. I have seen people with loads of problems but still try to enjoy each and every moment of their life to the fullest. I think this is a gift. We humans are the only creature who can control the mind and body through our intellect.
I think if we handle any change with the positive perception, we would not be struggling and enjoy the beauty of all the happenings of life.
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
Saturday, December 18, 2010
Why cannot we get along with everyone?
Our level of tolerance towards loved ones and strangers varies all through our life since childhood days. I am not sure if you have noticed this. We always wanted to be so nice to strangers and take our loved ones for granted most of the time.
When strangers upset us, we may be annoyed for a while but we just ignore and keep going on. Same applies at the workplace. But when same experience happens with our loved ones, we take it very serious and keep thinking of this occasionally.
Is this because we are very closely associated with our loved ones all the time and expect more from them? Or, are we trying to impose our expectation and qualities on our loved ones and try to experience the same from them all the time? Is this possible?
Everyone is different and people do different things to their level of understanding of what is right or wrong. Why cannot we just get along with everyone all the time? I know it is very hard as I always experience this sense of animosity when my friends and family upset me occasionally. After a while, I try to understand my experience and get along with them. Tricky bit would be not even getting upset in the first instance when someone upsets us.
In other words, one should be emotionally strong enough so that no one can upset them.
When strangers upset us, we may be annoyed for a while but we just ignore and keep going on. Same applies at the workplace. But when same experience happens with our loved ones, we take it very serious and keep thinking of this occasionally.
Is this because we are very closely associated with our loved ones all the time and expect more from them? Or, are we trying to impose our expectation and qualities on our loved ones and try to experience the same from them all the time? Is this possible?
Everyone is different and people do different things to their level of understanding of what is right or wrong. Why cannot we just get along with everyone all the time? I know it is very hard as I always experience this sense of animosity when my friends and family upset me occasionally. After a while, I try to understand my experience and get along with them. Tricky bit would be not even getting upset in the first instance when someone upsets us.
In other words, one should be emotionally strong enough so that no one can upset them.
Monday, December 13, 2010
Challenges in Relationship
True relationship will always be tested in the course of time. As we all live in the world of duality and conflicts, our relationship will go through some hardtimes due to some difference of opinions, misunderstandings, etc.
True love is the key essence for a healthy relationship. When conflicts arise, differences may need to be overlooked or handled superficially. This is because of a simple truth that if you love someone, there is no question of hating them because of their other side. Your love must be true and the other person will realize this in the course of time. When you change due to the surroundings and any other happenings, then the relationship will certainly be challenged. Then, no one else to blame other than the actual people who are in the relationship.
True love is the key essence for a healthy relationship. When conflicts arise, differences may need to be overlooked or handled superficially. This is because of a simple truth that if you love someone, there is no question of hating them because of their other side. Your love must be true and the other person will realize this in the course of time. When you change due to the surroundings and any other happenings, then the relationship will certainly be challenged. Then, no one else to blame other than the actual people who are in the relationship.
Sunday, December 12, 2010
Imagining the possible problems
The only difference between adults and kids is the ability to think beyond the current state. Kids enjoy the present and live the fullest of whatever they are given with. But we, adults, think we know everything due to our experiences in the past and learning's we made through the books, others' blogs. Because of this illusionary wisdom, we sometimes complicate things and try to imagine the problems that could occur in future.
Why cannot we leave the future and enjoy the present? I am not asking to ignore the problem as we have to handle it anyway. Rather try to imagine all sort of possible problems, live the present and handle the problems carefully when it arises.
Why cannot we leave the future and enjoy the present? I am not asking to ignore the problem as we have to handle it anyway. Rather try to imagine all sort of possible problems, live the present and handle the problems carefully when it arises.
Saturday, August 14, 2010
Can we control others?
Do we have rights to control others? I am not talking about a stranger here but the loved ones. We may think that we can control others based on what we think is right. To me this seems to be bit erratic.
End of the day, one should control himself/herself in order to influence others by his/her actions. Just by imposing our thoughts on others would not make a difference. One should realize what is good, what is truth, what is right thing to do. These things cannot be taught by the words but by the experiences.
Then, How will a child learn what is right?
We need to live up to our principles to influence our kids. If we don't do the right things, then obviously kids are going to learn from you. After all, we will be the first role model for them.
End of the day, one should control himself/herself in order to influence others by his/her actions. Just by imposing our thoughts on others would not make a difference. One should realize what is good, what is truth, what is right thing to do. These things cannot be taught by the words but by the experiences.
Then, How will a child learn what is right?
We need to live up to our principles to influence our kids. If we don't do the right things, then obviously kids are going to learn from you. After all, we will be the first role model for them.
Expectation is the evil feeling
One with no expectation is equal to the God......I am sure someone would have quoted this before but I started realizing in my recent days.
I have mentioned in my previous blogs about the expectation that we have and build through out our life time. But in this blog I would like to share about the expectation on human beings who are related to us and around us. This could be our friends, colleagues, parents, siblings, wife, kids, all the other relatives and even acquaintances. We are such a complicated being on this earth. We have all these ideologies and opinions on everything and everybody. When things happen against these, we tend to lose our control and react on people even to our loved ones.
Why is this happening? Expectation based on the opinions and ideologies about the individuals around us. What if we don't expect anything from the people around us? We may enjoy and accept them as who they are.
If we are happy based on their actions, then it is bonus experience. If not, no hard feelings....Yes, I know it is easy to say. But the problem is once you start enjoying our happy moments, we start building expectation on the person. Crazy feeling...but that is true.
I think that is when we need to keep reminding ourselves that nothing is certain and you cannot expect people to think and do what you want or like them to do.
I have mentioned in my previous blogs about the expectation that we have and build through out our life time. But in this blog I would like to share about the expectation on human beings who are related to us and around us. This could be our friends, colleagues, parents, siblings, wife, kids, all the other relatives and even acquaintances. We are such a complicated being on this earth. We have all these ideologies and opinions on everything and everybody. When things happen against these, we tend to lose our control and react on people even to our loved ones.
Why is this happening? Expectation based on the opinions and ideologies about the individuals around us. What if we don't expect anything from the people around us? We may enjoy and accept them as who they are.
If we are happy based on their actions, then it is bonus experience. If not, no hard feelings....Yes, I know it is easy to say. But the problem is once you start enjoying our happy moments, we start building expectation on the person. Crazy feeling...but that is true.
I think that is when we need to keep reminding ourselves that nothing is certain and you cannot expect people to think and do what you want or like them to do.
Friday, January 8, 2010
You are what you have
You are what you learn
You are what you earn
You are how you look
You are how you behave
You are what your family is
You are where you live
YOU ARE WHAT YOU HAVE
I used to think we all are common on this earth sharing the same resources....happiness and sadness is up to us to take from the happenings around our life....But then why we are comfortable enough to have our food until now than a 9 year old Sonsonne Semtembre below (Taken in recent Haiti disaster relief supplies place)
You are what you earn
You are how you look
You are how you behave
You are what your family is
You are where you live
YOU ARE WHAT YOU HAVE
I used to think we all are common on this earth sharing the same resources....happiness and sadness is up to us to take from the happenings around our life....But then why we are comfortable enough to have our food until now than a 9 year old Sonsonne Semtembre below (Taken in recent Haiti disaster relief supplies place)
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