Do we have trouble in agreeing what we are?

Some of the questions that I wish to ask this Universe or God or nature....
why do we compare everything or everyone with some other thing or someone else? why cannot we agree who we are and what we have? Some of you might have seen some parents asking their kids for more performance by comparing theirs with some other kids or with his/her brothers/sisters. I think that is where that kid must be confused in accepting who he/she is and what he/she has.
We all are gifted with some special character...why do we need to ignore what we have and try to impose what others have considering that the other person's qualities are more superficial than our ones. When I think about it....I feel like we are confused with the reality or the simple facts. Why cannot we try to observe ourselves to find out what we have...no matter if its good or bad...who is there to decide anything good or bad? its either your experience or some one's assumptions....based on past. Do we need to stop observing ourselves for these past driven memories or thoughts? why cannot we realize what we have and try to be in contact with them?