Why do we fight?

When I write this blog, there are several wars and violent attacks around the world. It seems to me nothing has changed even though our science, technology and what not has improved. With lots of advancements in several fields and other human-made stuff around us, why did we miss to nurture our mind in order to lead a happy life with every body. Why do we have numerous differences among ourselves though we all share the same natural resources? Can we call this greedy or lack of universal acceptance or feeling insecure on something that we are not aware of?
Are we failing to live the life rather prefer to just exist in this world? "Happiness can only be experienced only when it is shared" I got this from a movie 'Into the Wild'. I found it very beautiful. I believe the person whom we are sharing with may not be just our loved ones. It may be anyone. In that case, why cannot it be people from different countries, people having different ideologies, people with different color, language, or with any difference. I am sure we cannot put our legs on everybody's shoes on all the occasions. But at least, we can consider this before hurting anyone. Life is something special and it should be blissful.

Who is my Teacher or Guru?

Most of us seem to look for teacher/s who can lead us or show us path to achieve our goal in our life. This seeking process seems to be there within us in many phases of our life.
To me it seems like we cannot identify our Guru unless we are ready to learn. And, at the same time we need to sometimes filter what we learn from that guru. Reason is the person you identify as a guru may not necessarily be a superficial being.
Let me tell you an example. When I was a kid, there were times that I have learned certain stuff from my servant maid. And, when I completed my engineering I had to find a right university to do my higher studies. Can I seek that advise from the servant maid who used to be my teacher?
So, it seems to be like you get to see teachers everywhere and all the time in your life. However, we need to be prepared all the time to listen.
This reminds be Paulo Coelho's Alchemist. He mentions that you need to be aware of your surroundings and God's signs. For Atheist people, it could be signs from something that they believe on. Apologies for distracting the topic, it seems to me that even Atheists believe in something. And that belief is that there is no God. They also have their teachers who made them realize the non existence of God.

Anyway, we all find gurus and teachers all the time everywhere as long as we are ready to listen. At the same time, we don't necessarily need to listen everything they say or preach. That is when our experience, family values come into picture to justify what we need to learn from our teachers.
If we use our experience and family values to justify, do we really learn anything new then???? That is beauty of our life. Everyone of us have different ideologies and understanding of our existence in this world. It seems to me WE are the teachers to ourselves most of the time.

Why do we always look for solution/answer on everything?

Have you noticed that most of us look for solution on everything...whatever we see, experience, whenever we speak to someone, etc....I think it is part of human evolution. This is the reason why we have invented so many things, evolved from some barbarians to humans...

However, do we really need to apply same sort of mentality or concept on everything? For example, while we talk to our closed ones, friends.

I think we complicate ourselves by having our own assumptions, conclusions, perceptions, etc. To me, world is really simple and I think we complicate things more than it seems. Sometimes, a 5 year old child can understand the world and aware of the facts better than the grown ups. This is because that the kid sees the fact as what it is. Rather than, trying to come up with the conclusion based on its experience, assumptions, perceptions.

Life is not complicated. It is just us who complicate the life. Sometimes, we need to turn off our intuitive feature and try to enjoy the moment as it is. When you start looking the world/life as it is, you totally enjoy the life and purpose of existence. :)

Living with contradiction

Most of us would have come across several critics in media about contradictory statements or doings of some celebrities, politicians, etc. However, how many of you have felt that we have been living with contradiction? It may be our thoughts, jobs we do, behavior, etc.

I am 28 now. When I start comparing some of my ideologies, beliefs that I had six years back is totally different to what I have now. Some may define it as maturity, experience, etc. When I start inquiring myself about this change, I can observe several contradictions around me. This includes the environment where I live, friends who I met, education that I had, etc.....these contradictions mean that what I have now is different to what I had six years back.

I think that change is the only unchangeable thing in our life. When we mention the change, are not we contradicting the factor before the change? I hope I am not confusing the readers. For example, when A is changed to B, the word change will not be used unless B is different to A. In other words, contradicted with A.

Birth is a contradictory to death
I am different from you. Because our beliefs, births, culture, parents, experiences, education, friends are different to each other. Difference is because of the contradictory part of above mentioned.

It seems like we all live with the contradictions. So, why do we want to make it more complicated by putting contradictory thoughts within us most of the times? Can we atleast live without the contradictions we create rather than around us?

Can not we live without torturing ourselves?

J. Krishnamurthy and most of the philosophical writers and some of the religious teachings suggest to live without any expectations to lead a happy life.
I think I agree that statement. BUT, big question is HOW?
I think it is really hard to follow in this materialistic world. Not even for the sake of materials but also for sake of love among the families.
When we work hard in our company, we expect some sort of acknowledgment from them. If we don't get what we expect, then we think the company is not fair. If you love someone truly, then when we find out that the other person does not love you as you expected, you think that he/she is not fair with you.
In both the above scenarios, the level and type of expectation varies however expectation exists.
Some of us kill ourselves with this sort of confusion after we find out that things don't happen as we expected. Rather than killing ourselves, why cannot we take some time to express our loved ones or company about what we deserve and why we deserve. It may alleviate some sort of pain that we cause to ourself and probably we may get what we want or deserve.
You may not get always what you want but at least by taking an opportunity to share your feelings, you could live happily without torturing yourself. As long as we live happy life...what else matters? Expectations, beliefs, dogmas, etc....all formed by us because of our capability of thinking and making things complicated sometimes than it seems to be.

"Only he who can see the invisible can do the impossible."

Thanks to Frank Gaines for this statement.
This quote made me think on an achiever's perspective and I consider as one of the most motivated quotes that I have ever read.
We have heard our elders mentioning "Nothing is impossible" while we were kids or even now some of our colleagues, having dynamic can-do attitude, keep saying these sort of statements to motivate their co-workers, friends, relatives, etc.
Frank has gone a step further to tell us how to do the impossible. Interesting! by seeing the invisible. To me, if any one who can see something what others don't, then he can do something what others don't.
Can we always see the invisible? In other words, are we always alert to observe the invisibilities around the opportunities? As I mentioned in my previous post, we may lose control over our own actions because of others. At that instant, I am afraid we cannot see the invisible. You then become dormant in making some impossibilities.
Though we all can advise others with these sort of quotes easily, I think it is hard to consider ourselves.
Can we change our view on ourself? In other words, can we really look at ourself and the happenings of our own life like anyone else. Can that ease out the feeling that we have? Are not we another living organism of this whole world? Can everyone get everything in this world? Is there any reason for all the happenings? Or is it just how the whole world works? Sometimes we take things for granted, when there is a real need of that very thing, we then end up struggling.
Need never ends....

Why do we allow someone to control our actions?

As I have read somewhere, Humans are social animals. To me, this means humans cannot live without depending on any other humans or creatures of this society. When we all got into this sort of mentality, I think we have started depending on others. In other words, we expect others to be in a specific way. If they are not, we blame them for not being up to our expectation. We may show our anger, disappointment either to them or to ourselves based on the superiority.

Can we really live without having any sort of assumption or expectation on people? Actually when we meet some strangers, we don't have any assumption or expectation. Eventually, expectation towards them grows based on how close they are to you. How can we stop ourselves expecting some qualities from others? It may even apply to our loved ones.

"Having the fewest wants, I am nearest to the gods"

This is a statement made by Socrates. I got attracted to the concept: WANTS. Who doesn't?
We all want something always in every stage of our life.
It goes like...
I want toy
I want chocolate
I want my mum to be with me always
I want my dad to take me to theme park
I want my dad to get me some expensive video games
I want to finish off my homeworks
I want my annual holidays all the time
I want to get into good professional college
I want to clear my papers with all A+
I want to get job through campus placement
I want to get admission to one of the high ranking universities abroad
I want to get a nice part-time job
I want to get a full-time job
I want to get a better job with more money
I want to get permanent residentship to settle in abroad
I want to stay close to family
I want to get married
I want to have kids
I want more money to make everyone happy in my family
I want peace
I want to be like someone who does not want anything
.....
When Socrates mentioned about fewest Wants, Is it something like we need to live with what we get or what we come across or what we have?

Is expectation a reason for being religious?

Most of the religious teachings or beliefs have the concept of fasting. I don't understand this temporary restriction or habit of doing something on some specific days.
Why do we all do this? Why did our ancestors advise us to do so?
Why do our religions expect us to do to be religious? If religion is something extravagant, why can not it accept how we are?
Or, is it some sort of false belief that our religious leaders or ancestors forced on us?
Or, is it because we all think we get what we need from God if we are religious?
When I reached this point, I think we expect something from God by being religious rather than understanding the true meaning of love.

Why do we allow our moods to decide our actions?

We all have both good and bad moods from time to time. That is reality.
In good mood, most of us love ourself or our job or our family very much at one time. However, in bad mood, we sometimes hate ourself or our job or our family.

Have you guys noticed this among yourself?
It seems to me both the contradictory likes and dislikes are purely based on our moods most of the times. Why do we really do that? Is it because we try to justify everything? Is it because we try to categorize between good and bad? Is it because we have trouble in accepting reality?

Why can not we consider just the good and pleasant thoughts and go forward rather than worrying about something doesn't exist?

Why do we have opinion on everything?

Have you people noticed any of the following among ourselves?
>>Finding other religions strange
>>Finding people from other nationalities doing strange stuff
>>Finding some of our work mates very different
>>Even finding our friends sometimes different
>>Finding our loved ones different occasionally

Is this because we try to have opinion on everything? I think we all try to see people with some expectation or have opinion about people who must be compatible to us and who must not. Why don't we agree that the difference between people is a reality? Why do we always expect people around us to be up to our expectation? This even applies to our loved ones.
When we start expecting our loved ones to be something based on our opinions, are we really loving them? Or, is that some sort of possession that we have on them? If we really love someone, don't we love their activities as well. May be not, because as I mentioned earlier each one differs. But why should we allow that feeling of disagreement on something we don't believe in?

Can humans live without worrying?

Why do we always think about something or trying to find solution for something always? Have you people noticed this sort of insecure feeling that we all have or would have at some point of our life time? We cannot be satisfied with what we experience or what we have or what we enjoy. We always look for something which we don't have or something that our kith or kins have.
Having said this, do we need to be content in career advancements or just the material acquirement. I believe we need to get satisfied with what we have in materials. I am not asking everyone to lead a life like a saint however, we all need money and other materials. The thing is we need to know how much we need and any greedy feeling more than what we need is a sign of self destruction. This cannot be satisfied no matter how much we possess.