Monday, January 12, 2009
Pursuit of Happiness
Why do we fail to live happily at all times? Is this because of our ability to identify and distinguish the happenings in our life? Or, struggling between duality of our own life? When we get good, we are happy? When we get bad, we are unhappy? Good and Bad-Why do we categorize all the time? Do we understand the reality or just take assumptions based on our experiences? Why is it always hard to see what is? Why do we have opinions on everything? Am sure intelligence is not something failing to see the reality or present. Why cannot we be aware and intelligent enough to understand the reality? Only then, we can pursue the happiness in our life. Life is full of pain and struggle at each level because of our needs in different aspects and it is an ongoing change as well. We cannot get away from that however we can understand what is and try to understand the depth of life and enjoy the moment. Is not it where happiness lies?
Tuesday, January 6, 2009
Willingness to accept the change in others
I found this phrase in one of J Krishnamurthy's teachings. I am sure most of us have realized at some part of our life time between ourselves and different relationships. So thought of sharing with you guys.
Relationships may be anything: Child, Spouse, friend, neighbor, sibling, student, teacher, parents, colleagues, acquaintances, etc. When we get to meet someone, our mind will group this person under on of our relationship groups. By having constant meeting/relationship with this person, we get habituated to the process and build our expectations about this person. We explore the person's personality with our little experience and build this expectation. Apparently, at some stage, this exploration seems to be stopped and we set a strong opinion or expectation on this person. When this person behaves different to our expectations, we get upset and fail to respond to our senses. This also leads to the failure to accept the changes in others by changing ourselves. Yes, we need to change ourselves from being habituated to any relationships and be open minded to accept the change in others. Life needs to get going with lots of unexpected consequences. Only if we have ability to accept the changes around us, we can enjoy this life with love else end up in misery.
Relationships may be anything: Child, Spouse, friend, neighbor, sibling, student, teacher, parents, colleagues, acquaintances, etc. When we get to meet someone, our mind will group this person under on of our relationship groups. By having constant meeting/relationship with this person, we get habituated to the process and build our expectations about this person. We explore the person's personality with our little experience and build this expectation. Apparently, at some stage, this exploration seems to be stopped and we set a strong opinion or expectation on this person. When this person behaves different to our expectations, we get upset and fail to respond to our senses. This also leads to the failure to accept the changes in others by changing ourselves. Yes, we need to change ourselves from being habituated to any relationships and be open minded to accept the change in others. Life needs to get going with lots of unexpected consequences. Only if we have ability to accept the changes around us, we can enjoy this life with love else end up in misery.
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