Marriage life

Marriage life is the mixture of joy and sorrow. Basically marriage is the combination of two lives and their experiences and values that they gained through their parents, teachers,etc. There will be some difference and some similarity among them. Marriage life will be joy when both the partners have similar understanding or feeling on some instance. And this will be sorrow when they notice the differences. This is on-going feeling during their life. Couples need to realize this first.

When there is difference in opinions or ideas, we need to be very cautious in maintaining our relationship. Sometimes ignorance is bliss. You may need to avoid unnecessary arguments or hurtful questions. After all we are humans, and I dont think we need to know everything and dont need to be right all the time.

I think if both the partners think them as one, there wont be a question of ego or proving the other wrong, etc. You dont need to be right always. When this sort of argument arises, one of them need to step back and let it go.

Interestingly, most of the problems happen because of others. Partners try to take their sides based on their family, friends, etc and fight among each other. Who needs to have a good married life? Will those people around us come and live for us? Who can control our married life? Only husband and wife. Not anyone...not even kids, parents, grand kids, relatives, friends,etc.

Every relationship we have during our existence has something unique. Love and affection you have for your wife/husband will be different from the one you have for your friends. Partners need to understand this process carefully. Possessiveness....that is another evil when partners fail to identify the difference in this level of love and affection.