Do we have rights to control others? I am not talking about a stranger here but the loved ones. We may think that we can control others based on what we think is right. To me this seems to be bit erratic.
End of the day, one should control himself/herself in order to influence others by his/her actions. Just by imposing our thoughts on others would not make a difference. One should realize what is good, what is truth, what is right thing to do. These things cannot be taught by the words but by the experiences.
Then, How will a child learn what is right?
We need to live up to our principles to influence our kids. If we don't do the right things, then obviously kids are going to learn from you. After all, we will be the first role model for them.
Saturday, August 14, 2010
Expectation is the evil feeling
One with no expectation is equal to the God......I am sure someone would have quoted this before but I started realizing in my recent days.
I have mentioned in my previous blogs about the expectation that we have and build through out our life time. But in this blog I would like to share about the expectation on human beings who are related to us and around us. This could be our friends, colleagues, parents, siblings, wife, kids, all the other relatives and even acquaintances. We are such a complicated being on this earth. We have all these ideologies and opinions on everything and everybody. When things happen against these, we tend to lose our control and react on people even to our loved ones.
Why is this happening? Expectation based on the opinions and ideologies about the individuals around us. What if we don't expect anything from the people around us? We may enjoy and accept them as who they are.
If we are happy based on their actions, then it is bonus experience. If not, no hard feelings....Yes, I know it is easy to say. But the problem is once you start enjoying our happy moments, we start building expectation on the person. Crazy feeling...but that is true.
I think that is when we need to keep reminding ourselves that nothing is certain and you cannot expect people to think and do what you want or like them to do.
I have mentioned in my previous blogs about the expectation that we have and build through out our life time. But in this blog I would like to share about the expectation on human beings who are related to us and around us. This could be our friends, colleagues, parents, siblings, wife, kids, all the other relatives and even acquaintances. We are such a complicated being on this earth. We have all these ideologies and opinions on everything and everybody. When things happen against these, we tend to lose our control and react on people even to our loved ones.
Why is this happening? Expectation based on the opinions and ideologies about the individuals around us. What if we don't expect anything from the people around us? We may enjoy and accept them as who they are.
If we are happy based on their actions, then it is bonus experience. If not, no hard feelings....Yes, I know it is easy to say. But the problem is once you start enjoying our happy moments, we start building expectation on the person. Crazy feeling...but that is true.
I think that is when we need to keep reminding ourselves that nothing is certain and you cannot expect people to think and do what you want or like them to do.
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