Why cannot we get along with everyone?

Our level of tolerance towards loved ones and strangers varies all through our life since childhood days. I am not sure if you have noticed this. We always wanted to be so nice to strangers and take our loved ones for granted most of the time.

When strangers upset us, we may be annoyed for a while but we just ignore and keep going on. Same applies at the workplace. But when same experience happens with our loved ones, we take it very serious and keep thinking of this occasionally.

Is this because we are very closely associated with our loved ones all the time and expect more from them? Or, are we trying to impose our expectation and qualities on our loved ones and try to experience the same from them all the time? Is this possible?

Everyone is different and people do different things to their level of understanding of what is right or wrong. Why cannot we just get along with everyone all the time? I know it is very hard as I always experience this sense of animosity when my friends and family upset me occasionally. After a while, I try to understand my experience and get along with them. Tricky bit would be not even getting upset in the first instance when someone upsets us.
In other words, one should be emotionally strong enough so that no one can upset them.

Challenges in Relationship

True relationship will always be tested in the course of time. As we all live in the world of duality and conflicts, our relationship will go through some hardtimes due to some difference of opinions, misunderstandings, etc.

True love is the key essence for a healthy relationship. When conflicts arise, differences may need to be overlooked or handled superficially. This is because of a simple truth that if you love someone, there is no question of hating them because of their other side. Your love must be true and the other person will realize this in the course of time. When you change due to the surroundings and any other happenings, then the relationship will certainly be challenged. Then, no one else to blame other than the actual people who are in the relationship.

Imagining the possible problems

The only difference between adults and kids is the ability to think beyond the current state. Kids enjoy the present and live the fullest of whatever they are given with. But we, adults, think we know everything due to our experiences in the past and learning's we made through the books, others' blogs. Because of this illusionary wisdom, we sometimes complicate things and try to imagine the problems that could occur in future.

Why cannot we leave the future and enjoy the present? I am not asking to ignore the problem as we have to handle it anyway. Rather try to imagine all sort of possible problems, live the present and handle the problems carefully when it arises.